Comments on: Closer http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/ Eclectic Musings For Distinctly Morbid Minds Sat, 19 May 2012 14:24:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mellowish http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-23064 Mellowish Mon, 31 Oct 2011 02:13:16 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-23064 I have been reading your site for well over a decade now. You and I would not likely have a lot in common were we to meet in life. I am conservative, straight male with 4 kids I love very much and my wife and I plan on having more, lord willing. But this world has horrors that cannot be escaped. (BTW-I should recomend Qho Vadis to you-great depictions of what Nero did to the christians) I am fascinated by torture and punishment. This post struck a deep spot within me. First--I was there, too. Maybe I still am there. I remember true thoughts of suicide and the music that got me through it. Different music (Better than Ezra, Pearl Jam, Silver Chair, Cowboy Mouth, etc) but it was a reflection of the inside. Hell, even today I can't drink, play video games, or read fiction because I escape my depression to readily and life gets worse. I run to anything that will help me to forget my problems instead of facing them. Second, and more strongly, you have encouraged me to make sure that I listen to my children, maybe especially to what they are not saying. They are all still young, but I need to make sure to talk with them more. Thank you. I have been reading your site for well over a decade now. You and I would not likely have a lot in common were we to meet in life. I am conservative, straight male with 4 kids I love very much and my wife and I plan on having more, lord willing. But this world has horrors that cannot be escaped. (BTW-I should recomend Qho Vadis to you-great depictions of what Nero did to the christians) I am fascinated by torture and punishment.
This post struck a deep spot within me. First–I was there, too. Maybe I still am there. I remember true thoughts of suicide and the music that got me through it. Different music (Better than Ezra, Pearl Jam, Silver Chair, Cowboy Mouth, etc) but it was a reflection of the inside. Hell, even today I can’t drink, play video games, or read fiction because I escape my depression to readily and life gets worse. I run to anything that will help me to forget my problems instead of facing them. Second, and more strongly, you have encouraged me to make sure that I listen to my children, maybe especially to what they are not saying. They are all still young, but I need to make sure to talk with them more. Thank you.

]]> By: Luis http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-947 Luis Thu, 16 Apr 2009 10:58:31 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-947 Cliche but have you sought solace in autobiographies? Abraham Lincoln was one of the most depressed men alive and he accomplished a great deal in his short life. Give it ago, you might find a 'soulmate' so to speak. Cliche but have you sought solace in autobiographies?

Abraham Lincoln was one of the most depressed men alive and he accomplished a great deal in his short life. Give it ago, you might find a ‘soulmate’ so to speak.

]]> By: Comtesse http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-474 Comtesse Thu, 02 Apr 2009 03:54:48 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-474 <a href="#comment-459" rel="nofollow">@Michael W Lam </a> You know, I used to play video games years ago but they are just too time consuming for me these days. Alas... @Michael W Lam You know, I used to play video games years ago but they are just too time consuming for me these days. Alas…

]]> By: Comtesse http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-473 Comtesse Thu, 02 Apr 2009 03:54:27 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-473 <a href="#comment-433" rel="nofollow">@Bluegrasslass </a> Of course, as a child of the 70's/80's, I was aware of Toyah but I never listened to her. I also waded through many, many years of depression before finally getting treatment, so I can understand where you're coming from. And PJ is great - you should get Stories from the City, Stories from the Sea. It is brilliant! @Bluegrasslass Of course, as a child of the 70′s/80′s, I was aware of Toyah but I never listened to her. I also waded through many, many years of depression before finally getting treatment, so I can understand where you’re coming from. And PJ is great – you should get Stories from the City, Stories from the Sea. It is brilliant!

]]> By: Michael W Lam http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-459 Michael W Lam Wed, 01 Apr 2009 16:48:33 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-459 Long time lurker here. I just wanted to say you should give video games a try, they are very therapeutic, depending on what mood you are in. Feel like killing? Feel like being an asshole? There is a game very every situation. Long time lurker here. I just wanted to say you should give video games a try, they are very therapeutic, depending on what mood you are in. Feel like killing? Feel like being an asshole? There is a game very every situation.

]]> By: Bluegrasslass http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-433 Bluegrasslass Mon, 30 Mar 2009 15:36:17 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-433 I've suffered from depression my entire life, as long as I can remember. I only began getting tretment a few years ago, so some really tough times have had to be waded through. My music was always very important to me. Toyah was my rock in the 80s - she was a post-punk kinda girl, but totally did her own thing; lots of screaming & crying, lyrics like "We're the Obsolete, in the dawn where fire & darkness meet, an electric chair & death will meet to obviate the Osolete" My current favourite is PJ Harvey, of whom I have 2 albums: 'Uh Huh Hur' and 'White Chalk', the latter of which hols a haunting tune 'Dear Darkness' : Dear darkness Dear darkness Won't you cover, cover Me again? Dear darkness Dear I've been your friend For many years Won't you do this for me? Dearest darkness And cover me from the sun And the words tightening The words are tightening Around my throat And, and... Around the throat of the one I love Tightening, tightening, tightening Around the throat of the one I love Tightening, tightening, tightening Dear darkness Dear darkness Now it's your time to look after us 'Cause we kept you clothed We kept in business When everyone else was having good luck So now it's your time Time to pay To pay me and the one I love With the worldly goods you've stashed away With all the things you Took from us I can highly recommend both albums. I hope you feel better very soon. The troughs are the worst times. What most people can't understand is that there's no REASON for feeling so bad, you just DO. Sending kind thoughts and *hugs* I’ve suffered from depression my entire life, as long as I can remember. I only began getting tretment a few years ago, so some really tough times have had to be waded through. My music was always very important to me. Toyah was my rock in the 80s – she was a post-punk kinda girl, but totally did her own thing; lots of screaming & crying, lyrics like “We’re the Obsolete, in the dawn where fire & darkness meet, an electric chair & death will meet to obviate the Osolete”
My current favourite is PJ Harvey, of whom I have 2 albums: ‘Uh Huh Hur’ and ‘White Chalk’, the latter of which hols a haunting tune ‘Dear Darkness’ :
Dear darkness
Dear darkness
Won’t you cover, cover
Me again?

Dear darkness
Dear
I’ve been your friend
For many years

Won’t you do this for me?
Dearest darkness
And cover me from the sun

And the words tightening
The words are tightening
Around my throat

And, and…

Around the throat of the one I love
Tightening, tightening, tightening
Around the throat of the one I love
Tightening, tightening, tightening

Dear darkness
Dear darkness
Now it’s your time to look after us
‘Cause we kept you clothed
We kept in business
When everyone else was having good luck

So now it’s your time
Time to pay
To pay me and the one I love
With the worldly goods you’ve stashed away
With all the things you
Took from us

I can highly recommend both albums.

I hope you feel better very soon. The troughs are the worst times. What most people can’t understand is that there’s no REASON for feeling so bad, you just DO.
Sending kind thoughts and *hugs*

]]> By: Sandy http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-423 Sandy Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:49:32 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-423 OH - so DUH, in the Blackpool clip above (and if you watched the link I left above) the kid is talking about being Gay.....amongst several other things. How could I leave that out? I'm not on top of my game at all. *sigh* Cheers all Sandy OH – so DUH, in the Blackpool clip above (and if you watched the link I left above) the kid is talking about being Gay…..amongst several other things.

How could I leave that out? I’m not on top of my game at all. *sigh*
Cheers all
Sandy

]]> By: Sandy http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-421 Sandy Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:32:22 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-421 No worries! Yes those words mean so much to me too, I've been told forever that all my pain is 'in my head' and found this vid right after being wrongly accused as doctor shopping. I'm also a mum who is raising a bi-sexual male teen, so I totally understand - my son is lucky though to have family and probably more importantly for his age is friends that back him and didn't leave himn when he came out. That's not to say life is perfect for him (he's a cutter too *sigh* found the marks today - what were the odds!!!) he's been spat on, smacked in the face etc. The universe did him a good turn and made him tall and hunky at least! But more importantly, made him tolerant. He tries his best to shrug them off, imagine if he didn't have his family and friends. Oh and he wears a shit load of my make-up for the dark and brooding eyes look - bluest eyes I've ever seen! And, it's true as they say "This too, shall pass"! If not for people such as yourself, my son wouldn't have been able to come out to friends - many GLBT paved his way for him and made life easier. For that I Thank You!! As for Blackpool - yeah great show, but I must confess, you should like Brit TV to enjoy it? Dunno, it's not on DVD in the US (despite it's nod for the Golden Globe); so I used a torrent to find the entire show. Lots of 'just for fun' songs through out the show! And, yes I'm watching it today as I wait for my MJ man LOL! Almost 5pm, slow bastard! No worries! Yes those words mean so much to me too, I’ve been told forever that all my pain is ‘in my head’ and found this vid right after being wrongly accused as doctor shopping. I’m also a mum who is raising a bi-sexual male teen, so I totally understand – my son is lucky though to have family and probably more importantly for his age is friends that back him and didn’t leave himn when he came out. That’s not to say life is perfect for him (he’s a cutter too *sigh* found the marks today – what were the odds!!!) he’s been spat on, smacked in the face etc. The universe did him a good turn and made him tall and hunky at least! But more importantly, made him tolerant. He tries his best to shrug them off, imagine if he didn’t have his family and friends. Oh and he wears a shit load of my make-up for the dark and brooding eyes look – bluest eyes I’ve ever seen!
And, it’s true as they say “This too, shall pass”! If not for people such as yourself, my son wouldn’t have been able to come out to friends – many GLBT paved his way for him and made life easier. For that I Thank You!!
As for Blackpool – yeah great show, but I must confess, you should like Brit TV to enjoy it? Dunno, it’s not on DVD in the US (despite it’s nod for the Golden Globe); so I used a torrent to find the entire show.
Lots of ‘just for fun’ songs through out the show!
And, yes I’m watching it today as I wait for my MJ man LOL! Almost 5pm, slow bastard!

]]> By: Comtesse http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-419 Comtesse Sun, 29 Mar 2009 18:05:28 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-419 <a href="#comment-416" rel="nofollow">@Sandy </a> I've never heard of it. I'll have to give it a try. Thanks! @Sandy I’ve never heard of it. I’ll have to give it a try. Thanks!

]]> By: Comtesse http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/2009/03/29/closer/comment-page-1/#comment-418 Comtesse Sun, 29 Mar 2009 18:05:03 +0000 http://asylumeclectica.com/grim/?p=191#comment-418 <a href="#comment-415" rel="nofollow">@MoxieHart </a> Thank you, MoxieHart. It is always good to realize you aren't alone. :) @MoxieHart Thank you, MoxieHart. It is always good to realize you aren’t alone. :)

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